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[00:00:03] Speaker A: Welcome to youo Odyssey Podcast where your guides, Tara and Karen invite you on a transformative journey toward wholeness and personal growth.
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So, explorers, let's dive into today's episode.
Welcome explorers. It's Tara, Karen and I can't believe we're just now diving into a topic so close to our hearts.
[00:01:02] Speaker B: How did it take us this long?
[00:01:04] Speaker A: We are talking about self care.
Our daily lives pulls us in a million different directions and it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of all of our responsibilities.
Taking the time to care for ourselves can feel like a luxury, but let me tell you explorers, it's a necessity.
So take a moment, get cozy, maybe grab some water and let's get started.
[00:01:28] Speaker B: I think you should definitely grab some water.
[00:01:31] Speaker A: I cannot believe it. How did we get this far into it? Of course we sprinkled it into an episode here and an episode there, but I'm like, this is the first one where we're fully dedicating ourselves to discussing self care.
[00:01:43] Speaker B: The thing that fascinates me is that we talk about this almost every day ourselves. Like literally. I'm like, I how did we. When you said we didn't? I'm like, no, we definitely did. We have not talked about this. And it's so integral to your well being in all the ways to take care of yourself. And it took me so long to understand that I come from a long line of martyrs and, and like people who self sacrifice because they think that's what they have to do, should need blah, you know, all those words and just bite the dust in my opinion.
[00:02:15] Speaker A: In one way or another.
[00:02:16] Speaker B: Yeah, let's get down to what is really important about it and why it's so important and what have found works for us and why it's important to us.
[00:02:25] Speaker A: Okay, let's level set. Going back to early podcast, Tara, we need a definition. We need to get on the same page about what it is that we're talking about. This definition comes from the Oxford Languages Dictionary, AKA the Google thing. If you Google it, that's probably where they're pulling it from.
[00:02:40] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:02:41] Speaker A: Oxford Languages Dictionary defines self care as the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's health.
By definition, self care Is intentional.
And it's also essential for maintaining balance and preventing burnout.
[00:02:58] Speaker B: You have to take action. You have to set aside, you have to block it out. You have to set dedicated time to take care of yourself in the way that feels good for you. It's different for everybody.
[00:03:09] Speaker A: So today we'll explore five dimensions of self care. Physical, emotional, intellectual, social and spiritual. As we go through this exploration, one thing when I was looking at the different dimensions, some of my favorite self care activities overlap.
It pulls in the physical place. The soldier spiritual.
[00:03:29] Speaker B: I can see that.
[00:03:30] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. All right, so physical self care. What is that?
[00:03:34] Speaker B: Taking a break, going for a walk, making sure you exercise. Yoga, meditation. Maybe more active.
[00:03:41] Speaker A: Absolutely. That's what it is.
[00:03:42] Speaker B: Doing stuff with your body that feels good to take some time for yourself.
[00:03:46] Speaker A: Yep. Those activities that promote our physical health.
Emotional self care was dead. Emotional self care involves practices that support our emotional health such as therapy, mindfulness and journaling.
[00:04:00] Speaker B: Yeah. Also. Right. Conversation with trusted compatriots. I would say your inner circle.
[00:04:05] Speaker A: Expressing your emotions. That's part of it.
[00:04:07] Speaker B: Expressing. Yeah, for sure.
[00:04:09] Speaker A: Intellectual self care is nurturing our curiosity and stimulating our minds through activities like reading, learning new skills and pursuing creative interests.
[00:04:19] Speaker B: Creativity has to be part of that.
[00:04:21] Speaker A: Intellect isn't just the books.
[00:04:22] Speaker B: You're right. Exactly. It's not just that side of the brain. There's the other one.
[00:04:26] Speaker A: Social self care involves building and maintaining supportive relationships, Setting boundaries and creating connections within your communities.
[00:04:36] Speaker B: Feeling connected in the community. That's a big one. Right. We're social animals.
[00:04:40] Speaker A: How we were designed. And last but definitely not least is spiritual self care.
Not everyone is quote unquote religious or identify with a religion. But spiritual self care involves exploring whatever your personal beliefs are. Engaging in mindfulness and meditation or prayer and gratitude, even spending time in nature.
[00:05:03] Speaker B: Anything that connects you with your heart. Like your deepest vision for your life, your principles and how you feel Feel about things and what you think about those aspects of living.
[00:05:17] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:05:18] Speaker B: Which are not necessarily tangible. Just exploring that and putting yourself in stillness in some way or getting a sense of peace. Aligning with your deepest knowing.
[00:05:27] Speaker A: Absolutely. So as we explore these five dimensions of self care, it's important to recognize that understanding these areas can lead to greater well being. Looking at self care in a more holistic standpoint instead of like this thing that I have to do. If we think at it as an integral part of who we are, it becomes easier to engage in those practices.
[00:05:49] Speaker B: It's like you just. It's on the list.
So you're sleeping Drinking water, self care.
[00:05:57] Speaker A: And each of these dimensions provide unique pathways to nurture our whole selves.
But there are also common myths that can hinder our self care journeys. Yeah, for sure.
[00:06:08] Speaker B: There's always myths.
[00:06:09] Speaker A: Like there's always something that there's always.
[00:06:12] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:06:13] Speaker A: And by debunking these myths, we can better appreciate the true essence sense of self care and empower ourselves to take actionable steps.
So let's tackle these myths one by one. First myth. Self care is only about pampering.
[00:06:28] Speaker B: No. Because almost never is my self care about getting a pedicure or getting a massage. I mean, sometimes that is the way, but yeah. No, that is not about. It's not a luxury. It's not about pampering yourself. It is an absolute necessity. And depending upon what form it takes for you, Rock on. It doesn't have to involve extreme spa days.
[00:06:47] Speaker A: As we think about physical self care, sometimes that is just drinking water, Sometimes, sometimes that is taking a nap.
[00:06:56] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:06:57] Speaker A: All of those dimensions. You don't necessarily have to have money. You don't have to spend capital dollars to engage in those activities.
[00:07:06] Speaker B: I don't have to spend four to six hours. Like sell literal, like self care can be a five minute, just a five minute tap out, Be like, you know, I need it. Go outside, put your feet in the grass and breathe. Like that's, you know, that's self care.
[00:07:21] Speaker A: Second myth. Oh, I feel like we've just touched on this one. You need to invest a lot of time or money.
Please rewind.
[00:07:28] Speaker B: Please rewind. Listen to that answer.
[00:07:31] Speaker A: So self care is taking a few moments to breathe deeply.
A quick walk outside, writing in your journal. These seemingly small actions greatly impact our health. And they without cost.
[00:07:45] Speaker B: Yeah. And they have big dividends. Like for how small? That like 5 minutes, 5 minutes, 10 minutes.
[00:07:50] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:07:51] Speaker B: Seems small. Huge impact on you, your family, your workmates, your community.
Absolutely.
[00:07:57] Speaker A: All right, another myth. Only certain people need self care.
[00:08:02] Speaker B: Everyone, everyone.
If you're listening to this, regardless of.
[00:08:06] Speaker A: The circumstances, everyone can benefit from self care practices.
[00:08:11] Speaker B: Yeah. Everyone from the CEO of a Fortune 500 company to the kid working at the local food store.
[00:08:18] Speaker A: So amazing, like if we got it in earlier that there are these many different dimensions of self care. The way that you take care of yourself for the long haul is taking that time for what nurtures you and nourishes you and replenishes you. That'd be great. Like to be less burnout adults. I'm pretty sure if this is like a class, instead of teaching me, it.
[00:08:37] Speaker B: Should be like Least for middle school. From middle school on, instead of teaching.
[00:08:41] Speaker A: Me about whatever random subject that I can't even remember cuz I've never used it again.
[00:08:46] Speaker B: Let's talk about this another myth.
[00:08:48] Speaker A: Self care is a one time fix. Meaning that if we do these things once, it resolves stress and our mental health issues, whatever.
[00:08:55] Speaker B: That's like saying one. That's like saying one therapy visit and you're cured. Val. Like what?
[00:09:00] Speaker A: How is that why?
[00:09:02] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. Self care, like many things, is ongoing practice. I mean, you don't just go to the gym one time and you're like, I am fit for life. I'm like, I'm good. I got all the muscles, I got all my bone strength.
[00:09:13] Speaker A: Glass of milk, 26 years ago, and guess what, bones? Stronger than ever.
[00:09:18] Speaker B: No, that's not how it works. It's not a one and done sitch. Not at all ongoing. And that's where you know, that's why it's actionable. But you can break it down into small actionable items so it doesn't feel like you need a lot of time or money. We don't want to be overwhelming, we want it to be easy. Easy. You just have to remember to do it.
[00:09:34] Speaker A: Remember to do it.
[00:09:35] Speaker B: Put that in your calendar.
[00:09:37] Speaker A: Another myth is that if you need self care, you're weak.
Self care is equated with weakness or an inability to cope.
[00:09:46] Speaker B: In fact, my friends, self care means that you are self aware and that you know what you need. And when you know what you need, you know how to ask for what you need or give yourself what you need, which makes you just an overall better human being for yourself and everyone in your life.
[00:10:03] Speaker A: Amen. Preach, sister. Because she did that. She meant every word that she just.
[00:10:07] Speaker B: Said, right down to the period at the end of the sentence. Yes, absolutely.
[00:10:14] Speaker A: I only have anything to add to that. Okay then, so we just gonna keep moving right along. So we said at the top of this episode, everyone is being pulled in a million different directions. We lead such busy lives, we're on the go. So you're probably wondering, okay, I heard about these five dimensions. How do I fit this into my life? Like, what did you do to bring these practices to the forefront where they're not foreign and they're familiar? How do we do that when we're so busy?
[00:10:42] Speaker B: I mean, I think that's a great question and a common question.
And I think one of the first ways that you incorporate habits of self care is to make it. To attach it to another habit. You already do every Day I go immediately to brushing your teeth. You're brushing your teeth every day. How about five minutes before, after you sit in meditation, do some box breathing, a few yoga stretches, get outside and get your feet in the grass. You brush your teeth and you do that thing and then boom, You've already did one act of self care that day. I think it's great to attach it to something that's already habitual for you until that becomes a habit on its own.
[00:11:21] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, for sure. Flashback to the habit lab episode. Yes.
So I love the idea of bringing in, like, that's the physical self care of taking care. Care of our oral health tied to our emotional self care with the positive affirmations like, oh, my goodness, again, there are many layered. And you'll see as you develop the habit and the practice of taking care of all of the dimensions of yourself, that you could knock out two birds with one stone. Like, seriously?
[00:11:49] Speaker B: Oh, for sure. Sometimes three.
I feel like spiritual, emotional, physical can all be in the same soup.
[00:11:56] Speaker A: Absolutely. So physical self care for busy lives. Looks like hydration reminders. Full disclosure, y' all. I hear hate when the thing tell me what to do.
[00:12:06] Speaker B: I was gonna say, you probably look at it and be like, don't tell me what to do exactly. Oh, hell no. I'm on purpose. I'm not gonna do that.
[00:12:13] Speaker A: So the thing that I listen to is, like, I know I'm less hydrated because my throat feels a little bit dry.
[00:12:18] Speaker B: If again, listen to the cues, right?
[00:12:21] Speaker A: The reminder app or whatever may work for certain people. Or a timer like hydrate. Now that might work for y' all. I tried it because I thought, you know. Yeah, this is annoying.
[00:12:32] Speaker B: Less thing you have to think about.
[00:12:33] Speaker A: It was annoying. Leave me alone. Stop telling me what to do. The other one where I had to log how much water I was drinking.
[00:12:37] Speaker B: Ooh, that would make me nuts. You want me to drink it and.
[00:12:41] Speaker A: Log it and tell you that I drank it and what I drank?
[00:12:43] Speaker B: How much happen?
[00:12:45] Speaker A: It was cute to see my little water glass fill up, but not cute enough for me to be consistent and do that.
[00:12:50] Speaker B: It's hilarious. I would hate all of those.
[00:12:53] Speaker A: For me, it's your thing. More power to you. Maybe send your girl a tip and trick.
[00:12:57] Speaker B: Think about it this way, right? Give me something, because till then, she's. She's not doing it. She's not doing it.
[00:13:03] Speaker A: Physical self care also looks like how we approach our sleep hygiene. If your body's telling you we need a nap right now, then please, by all means, take the nap.
[00:13:12] Speaker B: Right.
[00:13:13] Speaker A: Listen, if that means your body is saying we need to go to bed at this time so we can be. What is the thing I saw recently where someone's like, your tomorrow is set up the day before. So how you end your day and prepare for the next day, that happens before you go to bed.
[00:13:27] Speaker B: Right. Like, that's. That doesn't happen like in the morning, the moment you wake up.
[00:13:30] Speaker A: Right?
[00:13:31] Speaker B: Yeah. That's like setting yourself up for a relaxing night's sleep. Right. By not being on the screen, just by connecting to your breathing and relaxing, doing something mindful and peaceful.
[00:13:42] Speaker A: Yeah. In the emotional arena, for me, that's looked like limiting the time that I spent on social media. Like, I didn't realize the toll that it was taken on me. Like, I don't realize how much time it's taking up.
[00:13:55] Speaker B: It's like the blob. It's like before. It's like taking over everything.
[00:13:58] Speaker A: Have y' all. If y' all haven't seen that old movie, go find it and watch it because it'll be like it's everywhere anyway. I have seen that movie also.
[00:14:04] Speaker B: The graphics, just horrible. Like, my kids would be mortified. They're like, that doesn't even look real. You can tell when you're doing something like that and you feel anxiety or tightness in your chest rising. It's like you. Your. Your body in your mind doesn't. They don't want to do that. So just like throw it out the window.
[00:14:23] Speaker A: I don't know.
[00:14:24] Speaker B: Just like, I feel like if you drive, just throw it out the window. Just like, be like, I don't want it. I don't anything to do with this. I'm only on there when I'm.
There's a lot I want to say. Yeah. I have to share and I Like, when I pop on, it's because I'm feeling really excited to share something. I go on, I do a live or I post a video, and then I get right off. I'm doing it to put love and light and joy and wisdom out into the world. And then I'm out. I'm like, I'm out. I don't want. I don't want to see anything else about it.
[00:14:51] Speaker A: This is it.
Intellectual self care. Let me tell on myself a little bit and how I nerded out just yesterday. So I play Apple Quartiles game. I started in that game this year when I first got it, I was like, I don't understand what this is.
[00:15:05] Speaker B: I don't even know what it is.
[00:15:06] Speaker A: I think it's like wordle. It's like these little blocks. So 16.
Maybe 16. We'll go. But anyway, four tiles, and they have different letters on it. So you put four of them together to make a word. Okay, so I did that, and I was like, well, I played all of the games. There was no archive. I was sad. And then yesterday, there was a thing that said archive, and it was like, all of the courthouse. And I was like, oh, my goodness, I can't play more quartiles. I also do crosswords, but you know what?
[00:15:34] Speaker B: There's a reason why people do those. It's good stimulation for your brain, but it's also relaxing at the same time. Not for everybody, but there's that feeling.
[00:15:42] Speaker A: Of, like, once I saw the puzzle, I'm like, yes, I did it, and I'm going to persevere to figure this one out. I was like, oh, my goodness.
[00:15:50] Speaker B: Puzzles of all kinds, I think, are like, That's a good intellectual thing. That's also just, like. It takes you away from whatever stresses or whatever might be going on. Just gives you that.
Yeah, I love that, y' all. She is a super nerd, by the way. Like, I mean, she's, like, the only person I know who's, like, so cool and so nerdy at the same time.
Yeah.
[00:16:12] Speaker A: And then another, like, how we incorporate it intellectually into our day is like listening to your favorite podcasts, audiobooks, as you're going about things that you're already doing during the day. So if you're washing dishes, put us in your ear. Let us come along with you while you're also stimulating your brain or learning something new at the same time.
All right.
[00:16:34] Speaker B: The mindfulness part of me wants to.
[00:16:36] Speaker A: Not do that, but to be present in the moment.
[00:16:39] Speaker B: To be present in the moment. Like, if you're washing dishes, like, really wash this. Be with the sponge, be the dish, you know, and, like, there's part of me that's like, ooh, two things at once. But there's a time and place for it. Like, there's definitely, like, the benefit of something that you're already habitually doing. I mean, nobody wants to vacuum. Really.
[00:16:55] Speaker A: It's a perfect time to do that.
[00:16:56] Speaker B: That was a great time.
[00:16:57] Speaker A: Socially, we know what that looks like. That means checking in with our people, scheduling regular outings. I definitely hold dear to my heart, my hag life meetings with my friend. Like, we have to get those in, because otherwise it'll be months before we see each other. And I don't like That I love that that also looks like joining a group or a club or with people with similar interests. Because that also pours back into you, right?
[00:17:20] Speaker B: If you're doing something in a volunteering capacity or you're meeting with people for a support group or with your spiritual community. Whatever it is, here's what it comes down to. All you need is or three people who really get you. It's just quality time and it's just in both directions for both of you or all three. It's like this beautiful soul filling experience.
[00:17:41] Speaker A: I think about the walks that I go on with my friends and family. So that's physical. I'm also getting the vent about whatever it is. So that's emotional and social at the same time. So it's like let's just get it all, knock it all out now and let's wrap with, with the spiritual self care. Spiritual self care for me is definitely prayer and spending time connecting with God.
That could be God in nature, that could be God in scriptures, that could be God in conversations, that could be God in the God in me. Like at the end of the day like connecting with myself. Like a deep knowing and a peace and a restoration that happens when I feel that part of my being.
[00:18:23] Speaker B: It doesn't always have to be attending a service. You don't have to leave your home, you don't have to leave your yourself ever. You're just sitting there connecting with yourself. That's why my daily meditation is so important to me. Because no matter what's happening, those are non negotiables and I do it twice a day. It helps me stop, rest, be in stillness and connect with my deepest and highest self. That divine nature. Yeah, it has become like a necessity.
[00:18:48] Speaker A: For me for sure.
[00:18:49] Speaker B: The other thing I do to connect with God is really just sitting at the piano and allowing music to come through me. I think that's why it was always so meaningful even as a kid. Because even when, when I was part of organized religion, it never felt spiritual to me. But then I would sit at the piano and I would be like this feels spiritual. So that's always been a constant for me. And I think music in general, like you said, just listening to music, for me it's really about sitting there, connecting with the divine composer at the end of the day.
[00:19:19] Speaker A: The goal of establishing and building a self care routine is to nurture yourself in ways that feel right to you. Karen and I have just given you examples that work for us. Don't hesitate to experiment and find out what resonates with who you are.
So you may be wondering, okay, we talked about all these different things, but how do I start with a personalized self care plan? We're gonna give you a few steps.
[00:19:45] Speaker B: I love that we're going to talk about some guidelines or reminders or like a process because there's some of us that just need that scaffolding.
Yeah.
[00:19:54] Speaker A: All right, so this is five steps to creating your personalized self care plan.
Step one starts with your self assessment.
Start by reflecting on your overall well being. Consider all of the dimensions, physical, emotional, intellectual, social and spiritual. Identify what areas feel balanced and where you need more support.
Where are you now?
[00:20:16] Speaker B: And I love the idea of having pen and paper and making a little chart.
[00:20:19] Speaker A: Oh yeah.
[00:20:20] Speaker B: And writing notes about that. This is what I do in this realm. And I could use a little more like scale of one to ten. A ten. I'm kind of at a six. I'd like to be an eight. Yeah.
[00:20:29] Speaker A: All right. So we have an awareness of where we are and where we would like to be. Use that to identify your needs and goals.
Write down what you want to address and set smart goals. Those are clear, achievable goals for those needs that you've identified. The areas where you want to improve.
[00:20:51] Speaker B: And sometimes you know it in your brain and sometimes you know it in your body. Sometimes you just know. Like, I've never done this, but I just feel like that'd be really good for me.
Sometimes you got to do a little research maybe or dig into what you like. There are people, I was one of these people who really didn't even know what that would be. What do I like? What do I do for joy?
[00:21:11] Speaker A: Try and experiment.
[00:21:12] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:21:13] Speaker A: That work for you? Absolutely. Step three, choosing your activities.
Find those activities that resonate with who you are, that, that sometimes can cross over into multiple areas of self care.
[00:21:28] Speaker B: Things that fill your well, your individual well, things that bring you joy or peace or calm or connection with yourself.
[00:21:38] Speaker A: All right, step four, make a schedule. If you're new to this self care practice, put it in your calendar.
[00:21:45] Speaker B: Yep.
I had my twice daily meditation in my calendar for the first year and a half. I'd see it and I'd be like, oh, that's time.
[00:21:52] Speaker A: Yeah. Weave it into your schedule.
And when you put those times in your calendar, make that time sacred, non negotiable. This is what I'm doing to refill to prevent the burnout. So this is very important and it has to happen.
[00:22:07] Speaker B: I would say everybody in your life needs to know this time is Blocked. If you want me to be a reasonable human being less grumpy.
[00:22:17] Speaker A: All right. The fifth and final step is to review and celebrate.
Regularly evaluate where you started and where you are and celebrate any progress you you've made in your self care journey.
[00:22:30] Speaker B: Including just identifying what self care means to you. Yes, that's a huge step. That's a success if you do it. Much less carving out time to actually do it and then seeing how good it feels to do it. Giving yourself permission to do it right. Allowing that time and then having it become such an important part of your life that everybody knows it about you.
[00:22:53] Speaker A: Speaking of things that feel good to do it. Yes, it was feel. This crosses over really good to dance. And this is a 100 feel good track that promotes feeling good about yourself and taking care of your well being.
This song is good as Hell by Lizzo.
[00:23:17] Speaker B: I love to dance this one.
[00:23:22] Speaker A: Check out this week's song on the YO podcast playlist on Spotify.
[00:23:31] Speaker B: It's so funny cuz I first heard that song on an episode of Virgin River.
Remember her just dancing to that like in her kitchen. I was like, I was like, oh, that's funny. I do that. We dance in our kitchen and yeah, I had to look it up. I love it.
[00:23:44] Speaker A: She said boss up.
[00:23:45] Speaker B: She said boss life. Own it. Own your life. Own your well being. Own your self care. Own your self awareness and take care of business.
Take care of yourself. Right. Be engaged and active in your well being.
[00:23:58] Speaker A: All right.
[00:24:00] Speaker B: That was fun.
[00:24:01] Speaker A: This QOT day. QOT day.
All right then. This QOTD question of the day.
[00:24:09] Speaker B: I love it.
[00:24:10] Speaker A: I feel like we've answered it a little bit throughout this episode.
So pick a dimension or dimensions of self care. What. What signs indicate you need to invest more time in that area?
This is so timely.
[00:24:25] Speaker B: This isn't two days ago when I wasn't drinking enough water or getting enough rest and I just been burning candles from both ends.
[00:24:32] Speaker A: Oh yeah, your body will tell you.
[00:24:34] Speaker B: Yeah, your body will tell you. Yeah. I for sure was. I was just running ragged and I was like, I need to just stop. I need to stand still for like 48 hours and just do nothing. But, you know, lying in my bed, maybe reading, I don't even think I want to read. I think I just want to lay here and think and sleep.
Yeah, yeah. I know if I start feeling sick, my body's like, you need to slow down, you need to stop, you know? Or if I start feeling agitated all the time. Like the other night I was so tired, I Had my son. I wanted to go to sleep. He was like, can we watch a show together? And he's biting his nails and he's super high energy. And I'm like, or I've worked the whole holiday weekend. And I was like, hey, buddy, mommy is really kind of fried right now. What I want to do is go to bed. But if you want me to stay up and spend time with you, which I'm happy to do, I mean, I'm going to be a little grumpy if there's a lot of like, sensory stimulation happening. So we just kind of talked about it and came to an understanding. But I was. Yeah, I like that. That was my clue when I was like, when I had to even get to that point to have that conversation.
Like, I had not been taking care of myself.
[00:25:44] Speaker A: Exactly.
[00:25:44] Speaker B: Because I don't usually have to do that. How about you?
[00:25:48] Speaker A: We've already talked about how I know when I need to hydrate more.
This is like my throat. I'll be like, oh, it's really dry. Like, I need more water.
I'll pick social self care.
I'm an introvert, but there are times when I'm like, I've been with me a lot. So, like, I'm getting to be too much for myself. Right.
[00:26:09] Speaker B: I'm getting a little tired.
Yeah.
[00:26:12] Speaker A: I need some other people, some fresh. Or if it's like I've been hanging out or spending time and energy with the same people. Like now I need to diversify. Like this. This has been great.
[00:26:23] Speaker B: Let me shake it up a little bit.
[00:26:25] Speaker A: Yeah, let me shake it up.
[00:26:26] Speaker B: Something to this.
[00:26:27] Speaker A: I just realized I'm like, yeah, by label or introvert, but by design. Social.
[00:26:32] Speaker B: Yeah. I mean, there's a lot of interesting dichotomies. Right.
[00:26:35] Speaker A: That's. That would be an ambivert. So, yeah, like, people, they're like, you it right away.
[00:26:41] Speaker B: Exactly. You're like. But introvert means that's how I like to fill my. Well, it's like a lot of stillness and alone time. But when that's full, look out.
[00:26:48] Speaker A: Right.
[00:26:49] Speaker B: Because I am in your face.
Ready to play? Ready to play. No.
[00:26:53] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:26:54] Speaker B: That just means you have a good.
[00:26:55] Speaker A: Balance going on, I think, especially when it comes to social. We've talked about this before about being intentional about spending time with our people. My love language is quality time. So that means, like, if you get in my time, there's value. There's a lot of value in that.
[00:27:10] Speaker B: That's like a high commodity currency right now.
[00:27:12] Speaker A: Absolutely.
[00:27:12] Speaker B: If I'm spending time with you, it's.
[00:27:14] Speaker A: Because I want to spend time with you.
[00:27:16] Speaker B: Yeah, exactly. You are way more social than I am. Like, sometimes I look at your social calendar, I'm like, I'm dead. I'm like. Like, I'm. I'm.
[00:27:26] Speaker A: I'm.
[00:27:26] Speaker B: I'm. I'm on the floor. I can't even. You keep a good balance. Your social calendar would do me in.
[00:27:32] Speaker A: You mean in this month? You wouldn't have had a party every weekend. It's not what you would have done with your cal.
[00:27:38] Speaker B: And, like, the parties you host in general. How does she do that? I know you love it, but you also make sure you set aside the time, the balance time. Yeah.
[00:27:47] Speaker A: All right, explorers. In today's episode, Karen and I have shared how we approach self care and hope that the tips and tricks we've used have inspired you, if you don't already, to fit self care in all of dimensions into your busy life.
We've also debunked some myths and. And this quote is by somebody that is super amazing.
[00:28:09] Speaker B: You have a smirk on your face. I'm like, what is she. Oh, my God.
[00:28:12] Speaker A: That's a good quote.
[00:28:12] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:28:13] Speaker A: This quote is from poet and civil rights activist Audre Lorde.
[00:28:17] Speaker B: I love her.
[00:28:19] Speaker A: Audre Lorde said, I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.
[00:28:31] Speaker B: It's a basic primal need in our opinions. And also, Ms. Lord.
[00:28:36] Speaker A: Right. Because when you think about the imbalance that could exist, the things that lead to burnout, there are so many statistics and studies tied to what that does to our bodies, how that affects our lifespan, how that affects our quality of life. So, yes, self care is absolutely about survival. And even a step further, not just about survival, but thriving. You want to flourish. You want to have rich and meaningful connections and depth to your life. And your life is more than just about. About the things that you do for other people.
[00:29:07] Speaker B: Right. Or the responsibilities you have or the things that you own. Right?
[00:29:11] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:29:12] Speaker B: There's so much more to it.
[00:29:13] Speaker A: And, yeah, and that's definitely something that I've thought about a lot this year as I've gone to two funerals. And thinking through, like, when you get to the end of your life, what are the people going to say about you? Like, oh, you know, Karen, she worked all the time.
This.
[00:29:28] Speaker B: No, that's not what you said.
[00:29:29] Speaker A: Please also, just maybe don't even talk about my work.
[00:29:32] Speaker B: Right. That's just how I pay for the food has nothing to do with me. Like really grand scheme.
[00:29:38] Speaker A: How you create and cultivate balance in your life starts with how you take care of yourself.
[00:29:43] Speaker B: Like, you want people to be like, Tara, she threw one hell of a party.
[00:29:45] Speaker A: Okay. Like, we had a good time. That. That lady. That lady was a good time.
[00:29:52] Speaker B: Yes, Absolutely. Yes.
[00:29:54] Speaker A: All right.
[00:29:54] Speaker B: That's awesome.
[00:29:55] Speaker A: Xor, thank you so much for joining us in our first episode about self care. Until next time, be kind to yourself, practice self care and share your journey with others. We'll see you in the next episode.
[00:30:11] Speaker B: I hope that you unplug and that you learn something about yourself today or this week or this month that helps you just nourish who you are and nourish how you care for yourself.
We love being here with you. Thanks for being here. Take good care.
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