Becoming Someone You Believe: Building Self-Trust

[00:00:03] Speaker A: Welcome to youo Odyssey Podcast where your guides Tara and Karen invite you on a transformative journey toward wholeness and personal growth. Each week we'll discuss topics related to the human experience and offer insights to help you along the way. Please note this podcast should not replace medical care or advice. We are not licensed healthcare professionals or mental health therapists. If you enjoyed today's episode, subscribe so you don't miss out on our future discussions. So explorers, let's dive into today's episode. [00:00:53] Speaker B: Hey explorers, it's Tara. Karen and I are beyond thrilled that you press play today. I'm already unhinged. Here we go. [00:01:02] Speaker C: She's beyond thrilled. [00:01:03] Speaker B: Beyond. We are closing out our month long conversation on self trust and inner knowing. And we've arrived at this place where these series of questions about what self trust is. How we build trust not just in ourselves, but with others. I know it doesn't happen in just one conversation, one apology, one promise. Trust builds when we are consistent. When we show up and follow through on the things that we say we'll do. [00:01:34] Speaker C: That is just as true for our relationship with ourselves, right? With that connection we have to ourselves. If you tell yourself I definitely want this, and then you don't do anything about it, take any action, then you're breaking trust with yourself, right? Just as you would in an external relationship. I think that's so important. Self trust and inner knowing and the remembering and connecting to your truth is just like it's to me, it's the primary importance. You know, it's like it's the biggest step you can take. [00:02:05] Speaker B: Like you said, sometimes we don't follow through on those promises that we make to ourselves. And sometimes we do. Sometimes we do make the appointment, but we haven't written that book yet. Sometimes we do ask for help, but we are still settling in other areas. Every one of those moments is the proof or the evidence not of like whether or not we're good enough, but whether we are truly learning to trust ourselves. I know for me personally, like what you said Karen, when you were talking about the promises and commitments that we make to ourselves. The difference between when I do follow through and then when I don't. It's interesting. I was literally just having this conversation with my sister about procrastination. There's a thread here. [00:02:48] Speaker C: Oh, I know there is. [00:02:50] Speaker B: I feel it. How we are rewarded when we do procrastinate and the thing still works out, but how different it feels in our body when we actually are prepared in advance and do the thing and it Works out and we don't have that weight or anxiety sitting on our chest. So that level of self trust and like, girl, you have the time to do this now and to be prepared. Especially as I'm in between semesters right now, I have more space, which is a good thing and a bad thing. So now I have to make these micro commitments to myself of the things that I want to get done in the day. And then reflecting back, like, did I do the things that I said I wanted to do? Okay, this was a good day. I might not have gotten to all of them, but I got to most of them. And that makes me feel really good. [00:03:34] Speaker C: Yeah. You touched on something so important. It's when you do, how does that feel in your body? And when you don't, how does that feel in your body? And I just think noticing that physical visceral feeling and reaction is so telling and so powerful. [00:03:52] Speaker B: It absolutely is. So what are we noticing in our journey towards self trust? We are noticing that it's not just in those big and dramatic moments. It is in every choice that we make, which reinforces the pattern of our daily lives, which slowly becomes who we actually are. So every time we honor ourselves, we strengthen that self trust. [00:04:17] Speaker C: Absolutely. And I'm gonna even go even farther and say it is only in those small steps. Right. Like, it is so important. Those little things matter so much. Going out for the walk that you said, I'm definitely going to do that four times this week or whatever. It is just all these little things that we know are good for us and that we know will serve us and ultimately then. [00:04:39] Speaker B: Right. [00:04:39] Speaker C: Serve others, serve the people around us and the world at large. [00:04:44] Speaker D: Right. [00:04:44] Speaker C: They're all small decisions throughout the day, Small choices seemingly. Right. But they, they're big. [00:04:53] Speaker B: I also want to call out, highlight that we are not talking about guilt or trying to make you feel guilty or whatever for not keeping these commitments to yourself. What we are asking for is what Karen just said is that awareness, that awareness of how it feels in your body when you keep the commitment to yourself and when you don't. Because what I know to be true is that the life that I have now, the life that Karen has now, the life that you have now has come from the habits that we've built, the boundaries that we've kept or ignored, and the choices that we continue to make. [00:05:30] Speaker C: Yeah. And so much of it is patterns, Right. It's neural pathways that have been there since ground zero, since day one. You know, just sort of all the things that are getting Poured in and you're like, oh, this is how it works. Oh, this is how the world works. Oh, if I do this, then this. All of that's in there. And if you want to change patterns and change your behavior, it starts with the awareness. Right. And the choosing differently, the noticing and the deciding. I'm what I'm willing and ready to change this pattern. [00:06:03] Speaker B: You know, can we tell explorers who kind of dig in our memory archives about a season where your daily choices began to reflect the woman you were becoming? [00:06:16] Speaker C: The biggest one for me was, you know, and I'm not telling everybody to just like go in and quit their full time job, but for me, leaving my full time job that I was not fulfilled in and starting my own business as a vocal coach and a music coach, that to me was like, oh, this is more of who I am. This is what I want my life to look like. And of course, that was about seven or eight years ago. Yeah. So like, just like that act. And I know that that was for me, that was a very dramatic line in the sand that was like, I'm not doing this anymore. I know my life and my desires are different and I'm choosing differently. I don't know how it's going to unfold, but I know this is first step. But honestly, still to this day, every day, I get to decide. I get to choose what I want to focus on and how I want to feel. And when I focus on how I want to feel, it leads me to what I want to focus on. And the how it transpires is none of my business. All I need to do is focus on how I want to feel. Joyful, grateful, full of love. You know, all of the things that I want to feel traveling the world, I focus on those things. And then the steps become apparent. How about you? [00:07:38] Speaker B: The transition into becoming an adult student, I did not really understand. Like, I knew leading up to it, I'm like, this is yet another thing that I am adding to my already full plate. Like, I knew that, but the level of discipline that required really stretched me. I mean, this. I'm only a year into this journey. And I was like, oh, I have realized the choices that I made. We were having a D and D. What is it called when they get together to play D and D? It's. There's something. Anyway, there was an event. It's a D and D event thing. [00:08:17] Speaker C: So Dungeons and Dragons for those of you who don't. [00:08:19] Speaker B: Yeah, role playing came that thing. So our friends came over and everyone in the House was participating in this event, but I had a paper I had to do, I had a quiz that I had to finish that was due. And I'm like, I am choosing to focus on this thing because this leads back to my original. Like, if it's not improving me and moving my business forward, that's not really a priority for me right now. But I'm like, rather than go play. Rather than you go play. [00:08:46] Speaker C: Yeah. And you, it's not like you don't know that play is important. Of course you're choosing the priority. You're choosing your why. [00:08:51] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:08:52] Speaker C: So that you can have way more play in about whatever time. [00:08:55] Speaker B: It's real soon. Real, real, real soon. [00:08:58] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:08:58] Speaker B: So get to choose your choice in leaving the security of a corporate position. I understand what that looks like. And then choosing your priorities for me, that is how we reinforce our identity. And continuing to make choices like that leads to how your inner self trust will change every single relationship in your life 1000%. [00:09:23] Speaker C: Yeah. It's not even just the actions, right. That you're taking that we're taking, that whoever's taking. It's the vision, it's the why, it's the where you're headed and the fact that you're so committed to it that you're willing to do things that people from the outside might not actually understand. But that's okay. It will all become clear one day. [00:09:45] Speaker B: You'll see. [00:09:46] Speaker C: It's like, you know, inside, you know what, you know what you want. This is the way. [00:09:51] Speaker B: When we are trusting ourselves, we are also giving ourselves permission to lean on what we know to be true. We aren't asking everyone else, who do you think I am? That's not my business. And I don't care, really. We stop apologizing for our boundaries. We stop over explaining y'. [00:10:08] Speaker D: All. [00:10:08] Speaker B: I can ruminate and come up with one bazillion scenarios of why this thing needs to happen. But I've stopped doing that because, like, who got time to like, either you [00:10:19] Speaker C: know or it's a waste of energy and time. Like, either you know or you don't. [00:10:22] Speaker B: This is what needs to happen. Or this is the thing that I'm doing. And it becomes easier to know yourself when you trust yourself. [00:10:31] Speaker C: It becomes easier to trust yourself when you know yourself, like all the way around. It is an infinity loop. Yeah. And I would say I don't know how it was for you, so you can tell me, but for me, there was a big crack that happened in my life. Right? Like, so it was just like you have to change. Things have to be different and you get to choose. And so I felt a little bit thrown into the fire. And I knew it was a big risk, but I knew that the other path was an even bigger risk. So sometimes you're faced with that, it's very clear, and you just sort of stumble through the first 500 steps because. And then all of a sudden you're out in the clearing, there's the yellow brick road. You're like, oh, okay, I did this for a reason. [00:11:12] Speaker B: Absolutely. That was the year before I became a full time student. It's like, oh, I can't keep going this way. Like, this way is not working for me. No. I don't know how, but I know I have to make a shift in using my voice and owning my full identity and being like, okay, okay. And there was sometimes there's like, wait, are we. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. But those choices that I made in the year before led me to the prioritization of, hey, I'm a student now and that's going to take priority. I don't get to go play with my friends since, say, can Tara come out of play, like, now I understand [00:11:49] Speaker C: you understand that, like the commitment, it's a commitment to yourself and to your greater vision. And I just think there's no more whole loving way to be with yourself than to really say, this is what I want. And I'm willing to do the things and I'm willing to put in the steps and the work and the play and whatever it is to get there. Because this is so important to me. And you're doing that, you're modeling that every day. And maybe one of your friends that was playing is going to be like, wow, that commitment really inspired me. We never know how far our reach out. [00:12:23] Speaker B: You saying, like, maybe that choice is inspiring someone else. Can you think of like a relationship that has changed because you've become more grounded in yourself? [00:12:33] Speaker C: I would say. And I'm going to use this sort of a large connection, my children. So I think that me doing what I love and being all of who I am, even though it's change and it's acclimation for them, I think that they see me owning my responsibility for my life and I think that that is going to be helpful to them. Maybe not today, maybe not even in three or five years, but I think they're going to see how important that it is to thyself and to trust thyself and to move accordingly to what feels right. And good for them, for anyone in their body. [00:13:18] Speaker B: That I feel is the most sacred Mother prayer ever. To be. Like, the choices in the life that I am choosing and creating and building, one moment at a time will have an impact on my children. And I think about it, too, in terms of legacy. I'm wondering, like, oh, is this the thing that my kids will tell their kids as a story? Well, when my mom did this, I knew that I could do this. And I'm like, oh, that would be the dream. Like, I would love to be here to see it. And if I'm not, I want that to be part of their story. That's something that I watch my mom do. Something I watch my parents do or their friends do is why I move the way that I do now. I mean, I know it's true for my story. Like, I've had examples of people that move a certain way, and I'm like, oh, I like that. [00:14:01] Speaker A: I want. [00:14:02] Speaker B: I'm moving that way, too. So, yes, I absolutely understand the Mother's prayer for the life that you lead to impact your children. And I think about the life, like, the beauty of my husband watching me grow and evolve and change and be. [00:14:16] Speaker C: He's gotta ask you what the relationship is for you. [00:14:18] Speaker B: I know it can't be easy for him to, one, manage somebody. Not manage somebody, but to be so close with someone who has already had this big personality, this big owning of her voice to, like, claim, like, there's [00:14:32] Speaker C: more, like, right to be in intimate relationship with someone, it just keeps getting bigger. [00:14:38] Speaker B: Yeah, there's more. But just keep getting bigger and not asking him or our kids to get smaller in that. It's like, come on, y'. [00:14:48] Speaker C: All. [00:14:48] Speaker B: We can all be really big together. There is beauty and joy that we can all participate in when we become our truest selves. Yeah. [00:14:59] Speaker C: Yeah. It is like the universe's permission slip. And none of us need permission from anything except for ourselves and our connection with ourself. And I think once we practice that and validate that for ourselves, it becomes easier and easier to choose our truth. [00:15:18] Speaker B: Think, too, about the relationships that have shifted. There's more distance in some relationships because of the groundedness that I have in myself. This is not all sunshine and rainbows and everybody is happy that there's big, big love that's happening. There are some that have shifted in. Not everybody can handle the shine. And I'm okay with that, but that doesn't mean I'm like, well, now everybody's cut off. It's like, oh, I You not getting on this ride. Okay. You still at the carnival, but not on this one. Got it. [00:15:48] Speaker C: But not on this ride. Yeah. And honestly, I'm so glad that you brought that up because I've been seeing things shift in my life and I'm realizing not every relationship is meant for the whole drive for the long term. Not every relationship is going to make it through the changes that I am exhibiting and the frequency that I am transmitting. It literally just doesn't jive. With some people, it's okay. They've got their own and they're on their journey. We're all each on our own journey. And I'm saying this, including my kids. My responsibility is not to manage their journey. It's to manage and be responsible for my journey and be doing it as best I can in the truest, most authentic, highest vibration way, heading towards what I see for my life and they are responsible for theirs. And you're right, like the hope, right, is that it's a positive impact. But regardless, it's none of my business. My business is keeping my energy side of the street clean and focusing on what it is I'm creating and where I'm heading, which is really the great. Remembering the coming home to myself. [00:16:58] Speaker B: Shift gears a little bit and talk about integrity. It's wild. So even when I say integrity, like I think of it or I picture it as being honest or incongruence, like in relation to other people. Like, she is a woman of her word. She has integrity. He is this, that, whatever. [00:17:17] Speaker C: Integrity. [00:17:18] Speaker B: Yeah. But as with most things that we talk about, integrity is also an inside job. Integrity for me now is when my inner life, the inside voices, and my outer life, the outside voices, are telling the exact same story. [00:17:36] Speaker C: That's when you're in integrity with yourself, when there's coherence. Coherence, I think, is another word. It's so funny. Integrity. Why does that word? That word is sandpapery for me. And I'm not even really sure in this moment why. And I will off the pod, dive into that. I'm gonna look into that. But integrity in the highest form, in being in integrity with myself. Yeah, but there's something about the word integrity that I feel like societally or culturally is overused or misused. [00:18:07] Speaker B: Misused and overused. [00:18:08] Speaker C: I love the idea of coherence and alignment. Which means the same thing, right? Integral being in, you know. [00:18:14] Speaker B: Yes. The inside and outside are telling the same story. And then also I think integrity as saying, I may have wandered away from myself, but I'm also coming back to myself. It's that awareness, like this is a little bit off and choosing to turn back and return to who you are. It's. [00:18:34] Speaker C: You just made me cry. Oh, that was. That was. [00:18:37] Speaker B: Wow, There it is. That now you found where to dive in. Wow. Okay. [00:18:46] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:18:48] Speaker B: Okay, don't. Anyway, Karen, the idea of integrity, meaning that we are learning how to make things right, it's that repair because we won't always get it right. Perfection has never been the goal. The goal is to always come back to yourself, always return to your values and do what matters most to you, not what everybody else is. You wander and you come back, you drift a little bit and you re anchor. That's integrity. [00:19:19] Speaker C: It's so true. And I just feel like I've experienced that so much these last few days that I'm like, oh, it is. It is a forever walk. It's. And I'm not saying to be. And I'm not being like over attached to. Oh my God, I got a course correct. Oh my God, I got a course correct. But it's just noticing when you sidestep or step off the path and just gently, lovingly, compassionately saying, that's okay. Let's just get back to what is important. Let's get back to what's aligned and incoherence and integrity for us. [00:19:56] Speaker B: Oh, you're right. I wonder if a little bit of the grittiness of integrity. I think there's this close relationship to the misuse and overuse of the word to shame. So when you don't do what you say you're going to do, there's this internal pressure. Wait a minute. You say were going to do this and you didn't do it. And now you're feeling the shame attached to not being in integrity and it's like, well, maybe the thing that you wanted me to do, it wasn't in alignment to begin with and now I feel bad all the way around. [00:20:25] Speaker C: Exactly right. Nippians comes around. So I didn't want to do that anyway. [00:20:29] Speaker B: There is something there as you were talking. The wandering and the coming back instead of that default pattern of shame. But gently, like you said, reminding yourself, hey, we can have grace in this journey. We don't have to default to the self criticism. We can rebuild, we can repair. And this way, self trust isn't just built on the yay, we did it moments. It's also built on the moments where we learned how to come back. [00:21:00] Speaker C: Maybe even more so because it's when we. It's like the prodigal son or daughter. [00:21:04] Speaker D: Right? [00:21:05] Speaker C: Like, when we falter a little bit and we just ease our way back and just be like, okay, we're not meant to be perfect. We are. Works in progress. And there's gonna be. What do they call that in sailing? There's gonna be, like, tailwinds, back wins. I don't know. I don't know. [00:21:18] Speaker B: Something. [00:21:20] Speaker C: You're a little off course, and you course correct. And sometimes you're like, wow, I really missed the mark on that one. But okay, I'm gonna come back. You just keep choosing yourself and choosing to be honest with yourself and to be connected to yourself. And I think it is in the little choices. Sometimes it's in the big choices, but. But it is in that noticing in the body how it feels and just choosing. Just choosing yourself again. [00:21:47] Speaker B: Oh, let's talk about some of those little choices. Moments of becoming someone that you trust, y'. [00:21:53] Speaker A: All. [00:21:54] Speaker B: You know how Tara's always got good stories. I don't know what's coming. I don't know what's coming either. [00:22:00] Speaker C: I don't know what's happening. [00:22:02] Speaker B: How we always talk about the balance. Like, we need to have this work life balance. Like, it has to be balanced. But I don't. Like, I feel like that balanced life is setting us up for, like. Like, y' all not gonna get there. I remember a few years ago, I'm like, I'm not. It's not balanced anymore. This is harmony. Like, it gotta work together. Some days it's gonna be 90% all, all work, and then I've had a 5% play, and then 5% I'm about to go take a nap. But it's like recognizing one. Going to bed when I'm tired. I have historically been and prob a revenge bedtime person. If my day has been completely bananas, I will stay up late just to feel like I'm reclaiming some of my space and my time and my sanity. But lately, I've been leaning, girl, we tired, so we going to bed. We're gonna do that right now. And it's. Oh, this was a much better choice. Instead of the 0.2 hours of sleep, I actually got six or seven. That was amazing. [00:22:58] Speaker D: Wow. [00:22:59] Speaker C: That's an interesting insight. Right? [00:23:01] Speaker B: I know. I've talked about the commitments to walk, weather permitting, five out of the seven days a week now I'm like, I want to walk more. Let's bump it up a little bit. Choosing to speak honestly and kindly, not just saying the thing, just to say it, but like, to also be kind when I'm saying it, because it is a little rough over here. [00:23:21] Speaker C: So little sharp. Just cut the up. [00:23:25] Speaker B: Just a visual of, like, learning to speak honestly and kindly. Will, like, tells me, like, I am someone becoming someone that I trust. Because I'm not just willing to, like, cut. I mean, I can listen. [00:23:39] Speaker C: I think we all know that by now. I can. [00:23:41] Speaker B: And remembering all the times that I have kept every promise that I made to myself, it didn't change. And all of a sudden it's this nirvana state. But it's that I trust myself to trust myself. Yeah. Back to the Infinity loop. [00:24:00] Speaker C: Yeah, that's exactly right. It leads to this, which leads back to that, which leads to this, which leads to that. It's all connected. I found it interesting. I was listening to one of my mentors on a recording this past week, and they were talking about the idea of some people just. Just want their life to be in balance and want some of this, this, this and this. And that's great. But as you say, you're setting yourself up, right? We're human. You're gonna ride the roller coaster. But first of all, you're strapped in. And if you have that, that self trust and that awareness that it's all going to work out, you know when you're going down, you're kind of gonna come back up because that's just the nature of it. That's just the literal nature of it. So that's kind of how the journey is too. Yeah, you just. There's a lot of trust involved, self trust, and just a general trust of the universe, of life, of the way things work. [00:24:53] Speaker B: I just. Okay, let's move to the song and let's go ahead. And this song is a reminder that there is beauty in growing, even when we're still on the way. We build self trust not by mastering and being, but by showing up with honesty, grace and courage. This song is beautiful. Anyway by Judah and the Lion. [00:25:17] Speaker C: We're not all going to be Jedi Masters, but we can be Jedi Masters in training, that is for sure. [00:25:23] Speaker B: Come through, Padawan. Let's go. [00:25:25] Speaker C: Wow. [00:25:29] Speaker A: Check out this week's song on the YO Podcast playlist on Spotify. [00:25:38] Speaker C: Talk about a trip. Talk about an anthem. Listen. That much ride. I was a ride. I was all over the place. I was like, wait a minute, I'm raising my hand, I'm taking a breath, [00:25:49] Speaker B: kicked in the door and said, you know, you talk about these things. You hold your head so low, but you're beautiful anyway. And then we're like, oh, wait, the remembering. I am. [00:25:58] Speaker C: Remember? That was like, wait a minute, I am. And then all of a sudden we're floating and I'm like flying, you know, heads up. [00:26:05] Speaker B: Oh, it's very fun. So thanks for the perfect setup to remind us that we in this life, we are beautiful. Anyway. And it's. What is the last line when we're closing on the. So that's what makes this life so wonderfully awesome and horribly awful somehow. It's beautiful anyway. [00:26:26] Speaker C: Yes. Right. [00:26:27] Speaker B: All right. [00:26:27] Speaker C: It's the full range. It's the full spectrum. The full. [00:26:29] Speaker B: It's all of it. [00:26:30] Speaker C: It's all of it. You got the whole menu. You get to choose which course you want to focus on. [00:26:36] Speaker B: All right. The question of the day. [00:26:39] Speaker C: We had like three or four of those. [00:26:41] Speaker B: All of the questions in this entire episode. So now what's one promise you've kept to yourself? It's easy question, right? [00:26:50] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah, it's pretty easy, actually. Yeah. Connecting with nature is really important to me. Sometimes it's taking a walk to do so, but I think getting out of my head and moving has been really important for me. And I've kept that promise because I immediately know how it feels when I skip or I don't keep that promise. And I'd prefer to choose that [00:27:18] Speaker B: episode comes out. I will have also leaned into that promise to myself. I'm speaking it now because I'm about to start this more strength training, more body weight resistance type of stuff because, you know, as women with hormones that are doing whatever it is that they want to do right now. [00:27:36] Speaker C: Yeah. They be hormoning hard or not hormoning hard, so. [00:27:41] Speaker B: So I will have kept that exact same promise to myself. The. I think the biggest promise that I've kept is to stay in harmony. Like, don't beat yourself up when this day is like, oh, this day has gone completely off the rails. But okay, tomorrow doesn't have to. It did. But also, what else did you get done today? It did. But also, how did you rest today? It did, but also, living in the harmony and being aware of that is the biggest, biggest piece. Yep. Today was a lot. Choosing tomorrow won't be. Yeah. [00:28:15] Speaker C: Yeah. I love that because so often we get caught up and then it becomes a tidal wave. Right. We get caught up and it just keeps creating more of the same. But if you stop and notice it and speak it. Okay, that was. Yep, I see it. And then you're like, I'm gonna choose a different. Yeah. Different. [00:28:30] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:28:31] Speaker C: Positive or whatever. A different. [00:28:33] Speaker B: Yeah. A different path. Yeah. [00:28:35] Speaker C: Mood. [00:28:35] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:28:35] Speaker C: Yeah, that's great. [00:28:38] Speaker B: I have a quote from American essayist, poet, lecturer, philosopher, one of the leading voices of transcendentalism. I just wanted to say that, that Kurt. No, this quote is from Ralph Waldo Emerson. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. [00:29:04] Speaker C: Yeah. The past, I mean truly the past does not exist. It's a remembrance of something. The future does not exist. It's a worry or an anxiety about what's to come. Right. The present moment is what we have. And where are we in the present moment? So where is the truth inside of us in this present moment? Sounds so easy to remember that them [00:29:25] Speaker B: transcendentalists, we're on to something. [00:29:28] Speaker C: Transcendentalists, sons of they wrong to something. [00:29:34] Speaker D: Those. [00:29:34] Speaker B: Yeah. I truly feel that every conversation that we've had this month have been pointing us in the same direction of not thinking we will have or need to have all of the answers. But what we need and what is true is building that deeper relationship within us. [00:29:57] Speaker C: Yes. And staying connected to that barometer. Like knowing, like not being overly anxious about it, but just connected to, oh, that feels a little off or oh, I drifted there, but that's okay. And this is really what I want. And remembering what we're going towards, what we see for our lives. Yeah. There's a lot of forgiveness, I think involved. [00:30:16] Speaker B: Yeah. This month has really been a reminder of learning to trust the quiet wisdom, learning to lean into the quiet wisdom. And it's been great. We'll probably revisit this topic too soon because this has just been so much fun. [00:30:34] Speaker C: It's been so rich. Right? It's been so like. It's just been so yummy and rich. [00:30:39] Speaker B: Yes. So until next time, remember that your self trust grows in the small honest choices you make every day. You keep becoming someone whose life shows what matters most to you. [00:30:54] Speaker C: And remember explorers, that you are beautiful. Anyway, we love you. We're so glad you joined us. Take good care. [00:31:05] Speaker D: Thank you to Queenies in downtown Durham for the use of their community podcast studio and for welcoming us so warmly each week. We'd like to give a shout out to Coco Cinnamon, the birthplace of 1023 Media and the yo podcast. Please support your local women owned minority owned coffee shop in downtown Durham. Brought to you by Durham based 1023 Media, a heart centered woman owned multimedia company. Sam.